Introducing change to children
Introducing change to children can feel like convincing a lion to go vegan—challenging, slow, and met with resistance. But like every great journey, it starts with patience, a pinch of humor, and the right guiding principles. The Bible gives us a treasure trove of wisdom to navigate such situations, and when paired with practical examples, it becomes a recipe for transformation.
The Art of Patience: Start With Love
Proverbs 22:6 says, “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” This scripture reminds us that guiding children requires a mix of instruction, patience, and persistence. But let’s face it—kids aren’t always eager participants. Imagine telling your child they have to start eating more vegetables. Cue the dramatic cries, the Oscar-worthy tantrums, and the famous line: “You’re ruining my life!” That’s where patience comes in.
Patience doesn’t mean giving up when the going gets tough. It means holding your ground lovingly, waiting for them to come around, and finding creative ways to ease them into change. For example, if your children have been used to snacking on chips but you want them to eat fruits, don’t throw out the chips and start a fruit-only revolution. Instead, introduce sliced apples with peanut butter as a fun, tasty option. Sneak in the change like a ninja parent, and over time, they’ll start to adjust.
Humor Helps: Laugh Your Way Through It
Ecclesiastes 3:4 reminds us there’s “a time to weep and a time to laugh.” When introducing change to kids, laughter is your best friend. Let’s say you’ve decided to implement a family no-screen rule after 8 PM. Your children might look at you like you’ve grown three heads. Instead of making it a battleground, turn it into a game. Pretend the house has entered a “tech-free zone” because aliens might invade if they detect Wi-Fi. Create a humorous, imaginary scenario where everyone has to hide their gadgets to save the world. Kids love a good story, and humor can diffuse tension while making the change seem like a fun adventure.
Give Them Time: Rome Wasn’t Built in a Day
Even God, in His infinite wisdom, took six days to create the universe (Genesis 1). He didn’t rush it all in one day, and neither should you when making changes in your family. Imagine trying to shift your kids from their favorite sugary cereals to wholesome oatmeal overnight. You’re likely to hear, “Why do you hate us?” more than once. Instead, make it a gradual process. Mix a little oatmeal with their favorite cereal, reducing the sugary portion over a few weeks. This way, they don’t feel the shock of sudden change.
Practical Example 1: Adjusting to New Routines
A common change for families is adjusting to new routines, such as moving bedtime earlier. You might have been letting your kids stay up late during holidays, but now school’s starting, and they need an earlier schedule. Instead of barking orders like a drill sergeant, ease them into it. Start by winding down the house earlier—dim the lights, play soothing music, and maybe read a bedtime story. Psalm 127:2 says, “He gives His beloved sleep,” and teaching your children the importance of rest can become a spiritual lesson, too.
Practical Example 2: Relocating or Changing Schools
One of the hardest changes for children is relocating or changing schools. They’re leaving behind friends, familiarity, and routines they’ve grown to love. In moments like this, Philippians 4:6-7 becomes a lifeline: “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”
When we moved homes, my children initially refused to unpack their boxes. Instead of forcing them, I encouraged them to pray about their feelings and then allowed them to choose how they wanted their new rooms arranged. Slowly, they started to embrace the change because they felt part of the process.
Practical Example 3: Spiritual Changes
As a parent rooted in faith, you may want your children to grow in their spiritual walk, like attending Sunday School or family devotionals. If they’re not used to it, don’t make it a punishment. Instead, make it exciting. Share the story of young Samuel in 1 Samuel 3, who heard God calling him as a child. Let them know God speaks to them, too, and encourage them to explore Bible stories that resonate with their interests. You could even use fun Bible trivia games or quizzes to keep them engaged.
Remember the Goal: Transformation, Not Perfection
Romans 12:2 says, “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” When guiding your children through change, focus on transformation rather than immediate results. Change is a journey, not a sprint. Celebrate small victories along the way, like the day your child voluntarily chooses water over soda or prays without being reminded.
Reflect on Your Own Changes
Let’s be honest—adults don’t always handle change gracefully, either. If you’ve ever tried to give up coffee or start exercising, you know how hard it can be. Share these struggles with your children to help them see change is a universal challenge. For example, “Mommy’s trying to drink more water instead of soda, just like you’re learning to eat more vegetables. We’re in this together!”
Anchoring in Faith
Finally, pray with your children and for them as they navigate change. James 1:5 reminds us, “If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.” Ask God for wisdom to guide your children lovingly and effectively.
Conclusion
Change is hard—no matter your age—but with patience, humor, and faith, it becomes manageable. Children thrive when they feel supported and understood, so take it one step at a time. Whether you’re introducing new foods, new routines, or new spiritual practices, remember to laugh along the way, celebrate progress, and lean on God’s guidance. And when you see your children embrace the change, even if it’s months later, you’ll know it was all worth it.
