“Girl, Stop Giving Them the Blueprint!”

You ever sit and wonder, “Why do I keep oversharing my plans and problems like I’m on a podcast no one subscribed to?” Yeah. Same. Somewhere along the way, I convinced myself that sharing every detail was a sign of openness, when in reality, it became a leak in my destiny tank. Let’s be real—I’ve handed out more free behind-the-scenes access to my life than Netflix does during a promo week.

Here’s the thing: oversharing gives people power over a life God gave me to steward. I don’t need a focus group to decide what God whispered in secret. When I constantly seek validation, I’m essentially saying, “God, your voice isn’t enough. I need a few more likes and comments.”

But Proverbs 4:23 says, “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” Not overshare your heart. Not put your heart on public display like it’s a street performance. Guard it. Because the wrong ears can twist my vulnerability into ammunition.

Even Jesus, the Son of God, didn’t go around telling everyone His strategy. In John 2:24-25, it says, “But Jesus would not entrust himself to them, for he knew all people. He did not need any testimony about mankind, for he knew what was in each person.” Translation: He wasn’t out here telling people His every move. He had discernment. He knew some folks smile today and plot tomorrow.

So why do I keep doing it? Maybe I confuse strategic counsel with emotional dumping. Or maybe, just maybe, I’m not asking for strategy—I’m asking for someone to affirm what God already confirmed. And that’s dangerous. When I make people the final authority over God’s plans for my life, I shrink to their expectations instead of stretching to His vision.

There’s a difference between sharing for strategy and sharing for validation. Strategy says, “Here’s the plan—how can we build?” Validation says, “Do you think I’m crazy?” And honey, if I keep asking people if I’m crazy, someone’s bound to say yes, and I might just believe them.

I need to stop building other people’s confidence at the expense of my own calling. Why am I giving out blueprints like candy, then shocked when someone else builds my idea without me?

Let me remind myself today: God speaks to me too. He doesn’t have to go through a committee. I have the Holy Spirit—my personal GPS and strategist (John 16:13). I can hear Him. I can trust Him. And I can act on His instructions—even if no one claps.

From now on, I’m putting a filter on my mouth. Not because I’m being secretive—but because I’m being selective. Not everyone deserves access to the sacred space of God’s dealings in my life.

So self? Let’s calm down, keep building quietly, and when it’s time to talk… let the results speak louder than the updates.